Being a "good girl"

I just realized that I needed academy for so long simply because I crave someone telling me I did a good job a teachers do so indirectly by giving us grades, and for a very mild amount of effort mind you. But my actual goals do not align with academy at all, in fact I kinda hate all those pricks. How do I even simulate this thing of people telling me I am a good girl to motivate myself to do anything though? There gotta be some circuit I can exploit to fool myself.